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Friday, September 27, 2013

Marital Rape

According to wikipedia :

Marital rape, also known as spousal rape, is non-consensual sex in which the perpetrator is the victim's spouse. It is a form of partner rape, of domestic violence, and of sexual abuse. It can be equally, if not more, emotionally and physically damaging than rape by a stranger.Once widely condoned or ignored by law, spousal rape is now repudiated by international conventions and increasingly criminalized. Still, in many countries, spousal rape either remains legal, or is illegal but widely tolerated, with the laws against it being rarely enforced. Traditional views on marriage which dictate that a woman must be (sexually) submissive to her husband continue to be common in many parts of the world.
Once widely condoned or ignored by law, spousal rape is now repudiated by international conventions and increasingly criminalised. Still, in many countries, spousal rape either remains legal, or is illegal but widely tolerated and accepted as a spouse’s prerogative.” - See more at: http://blog.tehelka.com/will-criminalising-marital-rape-destroy-the-institution-of-marriage/#sthash.DMLWFqUQ.dpuf
Once widely condoned or ignored by law, spousal rape is now repudiated by international conventions and increasingly criminalised. Still, in many countries, spousal rape either remains legal, or is illegal but widely tolerated and accepted as a spouse’s prerogative.” - See more at: http://blog.tehelka.com/will-criminalising-marital-rape-destroy-the-institution-of-marriage/#sthash.DMLWFqUQ.dpuf
Once widely condoned or ignored by law, spousal rape is now repudiated by international conventions and increasingly criminalised. Still, in many countries, spousal rape either remains legal, or is illegal but widely tolerated and accepted as a spouse’s prerogative.” - See more at: http://blog.tehelka.com/will-criminalising-marital-rape-destroy-the-institution-of-marriage/#sthash.DMLWFqUQ.dpuf
Once widely condoned or ignored by law, spousal rape is now repudiated by international conventions and increasingly criminalised. Still, in many countries, spousal rape either remains legal, or is illegal but widely tolerated and accepted as a spouse’s prerogative.” - See more at: http://blog.tehelka.com/will-criminalising-marital-rape-destroy-the-institution-of-marriage/#sthash.DMLWFqUQ.dpuf

To make it more clear marital Rape refers to unwanted intercourse by a man with his wife obtained by force, threat of force, or physical violence, or when she is unable to give consent. Marital rape could be by the use of force only, a battering rape or a sadistic/obsessive rape.Approximations have quoted that every 6 hours; a young married woman is burnt or beaten to death, or driven to suicide from emotional abuse by her husband.The UN Population Fund states that more than 2/3rds of married women in India, aged between 15 to 49 have been beaten, raped or forced to provide sex.

Strange but it is true that despite of various amendments, law commissions and new legislation, one of the most humiliating act is not an offense in India.And icing to the cake is NDTV's News dated on March 01, 2013 where the government clearly said that criminalizing marital rape would weaken traditional family values in India, and that marriage presumes consent, arguments opposed fiercely by women's activists.While rape by a stranger gets clearly defined as rape, rape by a spouse has its boundaries blurred. 

While rape by a stranger gets clearly defined as rape, rape by a spouse has its boundaries blurred. - See more at: http://blog.tehelka.com/will-criminalising-marital-rape-destroy-the-institution-of-marriage/#sthash.DMLWFqUQ.dpuf
While rape by a stranger gets clearly defined as rape, rape by a spouse has its boundaries blurred. - See more at: http://blog.tehelka.com/will-criminalising-marital-rape-destroy-the-institution-of-marriage/#sthash.DMLWFqUQ.dpuf
While rape by a stranger gets clearly defined as rape, rape by a spouse has its boundaries blurred. - See more at: http://blog.tehelka.com/will-criminalising-marital-rape-destroy-the-institution-of-marriage/#sthash.DMLWFqUQ.dpuf
Woman can protect her right to life and liberty, but not her body, within her marriage, which is just ironical.Some don’t even believe rape can occur within a marriage.Marital rape can be nearly impossible to prove.Old standards created by the society has its own identity which one is not supposed to question.A woman is to be her husband’s on demand provider of sexual comfort.Our society has this couple is accepted as husband and wife for the next many lives to come once they're done with performing the wedding ceremony where people are more concerned with what four people will say if one will raise her voice against the brutal behavior of  her partner.In a country caged in shackles of  misconceptions of rape, deeply ingrained cultural and religious stereotypes, and changing social values, globalization is still required to fast alter the letter of law.

5 comments:

Soumya said...

A thought provoking post. This issue is hardly addressed in India. You pointed out the right thing. People don't even believe that rapes can occur within a marriage. Its a sad situation.

We can only pray and hope for the law to change.

Red Handed said...

In law school...when I was studying the IPC...Even I had such thoughts...U penned them beautifully!! Hi5 sisterrr!!!

Rajesh said...

It boils down to respect and care. No law can drive this home.

Sunakshi said...

Thank you for the feedback.

sabreen zahid said...

thought provoking! definitely!

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